I know how it may sound, but even so I have to confess that, since Glorfindel's fight with those three Maiar warriors, I somewhat shared Lisselinde's opinion and growing frustration in regard to Glorfindel's puzzling behaviour. I thought that the poor Maia truly wanted to understand the Firstborn's ways and manner of thinking, she tried her best in Lorien, only to see herself abruptly ordered around, without so much as an explanation. I remember I even wanted to point out that Aman is not Gondolin under siege and Glorfindel is not Lisselinde's commanding officer. And now this! Another outburst, directed at the Maiar who never displayed towards him anything but understanding and kindness, Tiutalion and Nyereser, I mean. My annoyance with Glorfindel had become at that point pure enragement, I must confess, to my shame.
What transpired this chapter about Glorfindel and his parents made me shut my mouth and bow my head in shame. And not on my account only. What happened then with Glorfindel's parents and no doubt with many others at Alqualonde and beyond is inexcusable. No reason can be offered for this, none. So, hanging my head in shame, I will heartily apologize to Glorfindel for being so quick to judge him, despite the fact that I should have known better.
Forgive me for this rant, but I felt (and probably I was wrong) that it was necessary. At least for me.
As in regard to Glorfindel' state of mind..I assume he had to face this memory during his Judgement as well. Taking this into account, I won't say it should have been healed by now, but I would have expected to have a lesser impact on Glorfindel. But still, a minor thing was able to trigger this dreadful issue, which in my opinion is as important as his issue regarding the oath given to Turgon. And, as he will feel his oath fulfilled only the day when the ship bearing the last descendants of Turgon (I'm not counting Arwen) will reach Aman, I think Glorfindel's issue with his parents will be put to rest only the day when they will both stand before him. As the things are looking right now, it seems that Glorfindel still has a long way to go before he'd be able to forgive his parents. Both of them, in my opinion. Instead of returning to her son, his mother chose to stay with the one who killed her! I cannot bring myself to blame Glorfindel for thinking this way or for the words he has spoken, hearing about his father's fate. I'd choose to recall his soul's reaction. It speaks volumes, in my opinion.
On other note, Manwe had known in an instant what was all that about, Namo was close to follow, but Orome and Nienna hadn't been that close. Quite fascinating, these two Valar, for the implications of such knowledge are too important to be ignored, unless Glorfindel would be a special case, that's it.
Very important is also Manwe'statement, according to which the decision to release a Reborn doesn't belong to Namo alone. If I recall correctly, said Vala had his share of curses and expletives for not releasing one or another, including from Finrod and Glorfindel. "grin" Well, perhaps someone would be so kind as to do justice to Namo...."sigh"
Well, and because I've ranted enough, I won't say anything else about how happy I am for Glorfindel's atar, for he has sought and found forgiveness from the Valar. His wife and son are next in line, but he has done the most important step. Thank you a thousand times for the joy I have dreamt about since reading the story "Crossing the Ice" .
P.S. I hope you have a pleasant time or, if you're back, that the trip was equally pleasant and fruiful.
Author's reply
We all tend to judge people on surface reactions without understanding the underlying cause of their moods. This is what is happening here with the Maiar. The trigger for the memory is so subtle and made up of unconnected incidences (at least to the Maiar's minds) that they don't catch on until the Valar appear. I suspect that had any of Námo's Maiar been there they would have recognized the signs and would have known what was happening.
Somewhere in "Laws and Customs of the Elves" is a statement that elves are 'reborn' after Manwë and Námo consult Eru on it, so I put this statement here as a way of reminding people that it's not Námo's decision entirely who gets to be reborn and when.
As for my trip... unfortunately it has had to be postponed but hopefully for not too long. Perhaps after Easter.