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|Miss Dora Baggins' Book of Manners by Dreamflower||12 Review(s)|
|Kaylee Arafinwiel||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 8/20/2016|
|Dear Miss Dora, and Dreamflower,|
This is a Beautiful Chapter. Though I have no Reason to Aspire to a Wedding Yet, not having a Prospective Partner, it is to be Hoped that my Sister may Wed before Long. She and Robert have not announced their Betrothal, but they have grown so Close that our Mothers are Certainly Hoping for It, and Grandchildren to Follow. (Robert's Father is certainly wishing for Grandchildren at Least, but his Hints are more Subtle. As for our Father...his Wishes are Irrelevant. I have no more to say on That Subject.)
If Heather and Robert do Indeed Take that Final Step, I would be Proud Indeed to Pen their Announcement, in such Form as you have Shown Here.
Your faithful Reader and Friend,
|J9YG3EVZ||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 10/23/2013|
|You don't need to abandon the biablcil approach if the person you are talking to doesn't believe that the Bible is the word of God. You could explain to that person why you think that the Bible is the word of God. If someone doesn't believe that there is absolute truth, you could ask him this question: Is it an absolute truth that there is no absolute truth?|
|e4MgcKs8p6WT||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 10/21/2013|
|OK, I am truely falnilg in love with him! However, we are cross fencing our property and would not be able to take him until after January. I kind of hope that will work out for when you want to adopt him out. Do you have any idea what you might want for his adoption fee? I live in Florida, so unfortunately can not just run up there on a weekend, especially during the busy season. I work in the medical field. I have 2 intermediate horses and 1 intermediate pony now. Personality wise, do you think he would finish out with a real laid back personality. I just can't take on another intermediate personality!!! I realize he probably won't chill out until he becomes mature. Thanks!SherryPS: I understand I would still have to pass inspection! lol|
|Kaylee Arafinwiel||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 11/3/2009|
|Dear Miss Dora,|
I have not been to many Weddings, nor am I Married yet; I have not even been Properly Courted. But I know well the Dangers of putting the Dessert before the Main Course and would under no circumstances Do So! I believe that Someday I will find the right Person to spend the Rest of my Life with.
Of course, if one has Certain Problems, as I do, one may Question whether it is Appropriate to Wed or Bear Children; I admit being afraid that my Conditions may hurt any potential Children of mine. I want a Family of my Own very much, but also Fear for any Potential Problems.
What would you advise, Miss Dora?
Author Reply: My Dear Miss Kaylee,
It is not Unusual for Young Persons in your situation to Worry Overmuch about the Future and what it will Bring. When one is young, there is so very much Time and so very many Possibilities (both Good and Bad) that Loom Ahead. As you Grow Older you will Come to Realize that such things cannot be Predicted, nor can they be Forced.
If you are Meant to find True Love and to Wed and start a Family, then it will happen without your Fretting.
And keep in mind that not Everyone is meant for Wedded Bliss. I myself am Quite Content in my Spinsterhood, and I have a Bachelor Cousin who (though I would not Dream of telling him so) has made an Excellent Parent to our Orphaned Cousin. There are more ways than One to have a Family!
Kaylee, I can only echo Miss Dora here. If something is Meant (as Gandalf puts it) it will happen no matter what! (((hugs)))
|Imhiriel||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/5/2006|
|The Bride and the Groom are only considered as a Necessary Means towards the holding of the Wedding. As for Fathers, Grandfathers, Brothers and Uncles, they exist for the holding of the Pocketbook and the moving of Tables and other Furniture, and a few other such Practical Duties.|
Hee-hee. The time-honoured complaint of all representatives of the male species...
Does she have any special Preference for an Artist to make the Wedding Document?
Loved this detail; Not only does it sound appropriately "hobbity", but it's also a nice suggestion in itself.
Also the passage about "The Talk" is sweet, "Conjugal Chamber" and all. Miss Dora is straightforward without being blunt, discreet without being overly prim.
I get the feeling that Dora had been repeatedly chosen as the Bride's Witness, which subtly shows that she is a well-liked woman.
(It should go without saying that if the Attendant is with the Groom the night before, he should be Abstemious in his own Imbibing!)
Hmmmm... I wonder how many Best Men actually heed this particular piece of advice...
Author Reply: Well...yes. And it's like hobbits to simply admit that and move on, LOL!
In my Shire, at least, the central part of the ceremony involves the signing of the Contract. Even hobbit couples of simple means will have a nice document, prettily illuminated, to frame and keep on the wall of their cot or smial. For hobbits of means, they would be large, beautifully calligraphed, and decorated with elaborate painted and gilded borders. And of course, full of the complicated and flowery language which hobbits love to have in their documents!
I came up with that idea in "A New Reckoning"--the parents (or closest senior relative) of the appropriate gender, filling the young bride or groom in on the "secrets" of a happy marriage. And I am glad you appreciate Miss Dora's discretion. As a maiden aunt it would be inappropriate for her to go into any kinds of detail, but she is not completely *ignorant* of the facts.
I am sure that she *was* popular as a Bride's Witness! She'd certainly manage her duties very well.
*giggle* I'm not sure--but I do think it's good advice, LOL!
|SlightlyTookish||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/2/2006|
|What an excellent chapter! Miss Dora's voice is so clear and practical. Wise Miss Dora...I can imagine her relatives asking her for advice until one day she just decided to write it all down. I'm glad she did!|
|Bodkin||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/2/2006|
|I am glad that Miss Dora has recognised accurately the true Role of the Male in the organising of weddings. (When we went to my cousin's wedding, the bride's father looked exactly as if he had been reading Miss Dora's words of wisdom...) And her advice is remarkably sensible, too - even the traditions on presents seem to have a lot in their favour.|
Certainly those who follow this advice will have a Wedding to Remember.
Author Reply: I think hobbits would have been pretty up-front and honest on that score, LOL!
Hobbits seem to be remarkably well-endowed with hobbit-sense. I know that when I read JRRT's reasons for having that tradition, it seemed to me to be imminently sensible and well-thought out. A wedding should not *be* all about how many gifts the couple has garnered. It always makes me wince to hear a couple bragging about the "loot" they've "raked in" for their weddings, even jokingly. Hobbits, with their own emphasis on *giving* rather than *receiving* would be even *more* appalled. Can you *imagine* what Miss Dora would have thought of the idea of the "Bridal Registry"?
|French Pony||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/1/2006|
|The Occasion of a Marriage can bring out the Best in the hobbits involved--and it can bring out the Worst, as well.|
Sing it, Miss Dora!
Weddings are the Province, most of all, of Mothers, but also of Grandmothers, Aunts, Sisters, and Senior Female Cousins! The Bride and the Groom are only considered as a Necessary Means towards the holding of the Wedding. As for Fathers, Grandfathers, Brothers and Uncles, they exist for the holding of the Pocketbook and the moving of Tables and other Furniture, and a few other such Practical Duties.
Amen and hallelujah!
And of course, that most common of wedding day afflictions, the Inevitable Nerves. I shall have to mention them to the next Bride I meet. "Oh, deah. Have you come down with the Inevitable Nerves, Letty darling?"
Author Reply: *giggle*
Miss Dora keeps her eyes open, doesn't she?
"Inevitable Nerves", yes, for both the Bride and the Groom, as they not only get ready to make a life-long commitment, but to do it in front of everyone they know, and a good many people they don't, as well! I do remember my *own* Inevitable Nerves, three decades later!
|harrowcat||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/1/2006|
|I really feel a little sorry for MISS Dora in this chapter Dreamflower. Always the Bride's friend and with plenty of observed experience but never the bride. And as a single forty something I fear that I know all too well how she feels/ She is very astute to comment that hobbit mothers may see their marriage duties as being a long anticipated task.|
Author Reply: I often wonder why Miss Dora is still single--I've some ideas on the subject, but none of them have yet given birth to any bunnies, alas.
Still, her unmarried state gives her a bit more perspective and objectivity on the the subject, so that's all for the best, advice-wise, I suppose!
Mothers of any race tend to look forward to their daughters' weddings--I think, though, that hobbits are much more straight forward and up-front about thtat!
|Elemmírë||Reviewed Chapter: 11 on 12/1/2006|
|Weddings are the Province, most of all, of Mothers, but also of Grandmothers, Aunts, Sisters, and Senior Female Cousins! The Bride and the Groom are only considered as a Necessary Means towards the holding of the Wedding. As for Fathers, Grandfathers, Brothers and Uncles, they exist for the holding of the Pocketbook and the moving of Tables and other Furniture, and a few other such Practical Duties.|
Isn't that the Truth!!!! ROTFL!!
Those Guests who live furthest away should receive the First of the Invitations, while the last of them should go to those Guests living in the Immediate Vicinity. This not only gives Allowance for the Vagaries of the Post, but also gives plenty of time for the Guests to make Travel Arrangements.
A very wise idea indeed, Miss Dora, and another wonderful and informative chapter.
Author Reply: *grin*
Miss Dora is a very shrewd observer, if you know what I mean, LOL!